Light Up Your Life With Islam

The Shield 

Bismillah. 

One of the purest love that exists in this world is that of parents for their children. They love their kids selflessly and would go to any length to protect and benefit them. They’d even sacrifice their life for them. What could be greater than that?

If a child becomes ill, the father and mother would do whatever is humanly possible for them to do. Everyone gives their own opinion and advice regarding the child’s illness and they listen to each one hungrily, because who knows what will work? And same goes for all the matters of life. They want the best for their offspring. 

Well, here’s the good news! 

  

I’m about to share a formula which is 100% tried and tested by the prophets themselves. Imagine that! 


Sahih Bukhari, 3371:


Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:

The Prophet (ﷺ) used to seek Refuge with Allah for Al-Hasan and Al-Husain and say: “Your forefather (i.e. Abraham) used to seek Refuge with Allah for Ishmael and Isaac by reciting the following: ‘O Allah! I seek Refuge with Your Perfect Words from every devil and from poisonous pests and from every evil, harmful, envious eye.’ “

The dua in Arabic: 

أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ، وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لاَمَّةٍ ‏”‏‏.‏

Let’s add this dua in our routinely supplications for protection of our beloved ones. You can make this dua for them whether they’re with you or live far away. It will benefit inshaAllah. :)

Neglected

Bismillah.

The other day I came across an interesting piece of news that caught my attention. It said that it has been found that plants grow faster and thrive if you talk to them. I said to myself, whoa! This sounds humanistic. :D

I’m not sure of the credibility of this research but I do remember my childhood experiences and observations when my mother used to tend to her plants and say, “they grow so much better if they just feel cared for”. And it is indeed true. Anyone of you who has any familiarity with shrubs and flowers would vouch for this.

But this is not just about plants, the same holds true not only for animals but also for human beings. Ever seen a baby cry at the top of his voice resulting in the whole house freaking out, rushing to his side and picking him up, only to find that he needed nothing but attention? As soon as you pick him up, he smiles innocently, oblivious of the trouble he put you through.

Adults are no different, only they’re more subtle and complicated in their actions. Kids are, after all, the windows of human psyche. Adults crave attention. We often behave very weirdly just so people notice us. Many times, it is seen that relationships are at an end because “he/she ignores me”. And just like plants, we thrive and flourish when we feel cared for. In short, this is our shortcoming and we are scared of our weaknesses lest they overcome us and we feel defeated at a time when we need our strength the most.

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Someone ignores you for a few hours, you start going mad. Imagine being ignored for years and years. Imagine no one else being with you at that time to whom you can turn to. Imagine being in pain and suffering as well in addition to that loneliness. Even our imagination has its limits!

We find in Sahih Bukhari, 3266:

Narrated Yali:

That he heard the Prophet (ﷺ) on the pulpit reciting:– “They will cry: “O Malik!’ (43.77) (Malik is the gate-keeper (angel) of the (Hell) Fire.)

What is this being talked about?

We find in Az-Zukhraf 77:

And they will call, “O Malik, let your Lord put an end to us!” He will say, “Indeed, you will remain.”

This has been explained in more detail in Sahih At-Targheeb Wat-Tarheeb 3691:

 

عن عبد الله بن عمرو رضي الله عنهما قال إن أهل النار يدعون مالكا فلا يجيبهم أربعين عاما ثم يقول إنكم ماكثون ثم يدعون ربهم فيقولون ربنا أخرجنا منها فإن عدنا فإنا ظالمون فلا يجيبهم مثل الدنيا ثم يقول اخسؤوا فيها ولا تكلمون ثم ييأس القوم

Narrated Abdullah ibn ‘Umar RA, he said: the people of the fire will call upon Malik (the gatekeeper angel of hell-fire) but he will not respond to them for forty years, then he will say that indeed you will remain. Then they will call upon their Lord, and they will say, O our Lord! Take us out of this, if we turn back to what we did then indeed we are the wrongful. He will not respond to them like in this world, then He will say, remain despised therein and do not speak to Me. Then the people will lose hope. 

Imagine being ignored for 40 whole years! Being in torment, begging for mercy and getting no answer. Imagine being shunned even when responded to after 40 years. Imagine being in the dark and torturous fire forever, imagine being hopeless! Oh, the agony!

Hopeless! What a sad and depressing word. What do we live for in this life if not for our dreams and hopes? Hopelessness in this world leads us to depression which has led many to commit suicide. The worst form of punishment for criminals is solitary confinement. Take away someone’s hope and ignore them absolutely, and you have a dead person already! But there they won’t be able to die even! They have to live in that torment forever and ever!

But why? One asks why would this happen to them? Because they were given chances in this world again and again to reform themselves, to turn over a new leaf but they did not. They disobeyed Allah, their Creator and landed themselves in this mess. Remember, He is not unjust to anyone. We have been given time in this world. This is our chance! Let’s avail that and save ourselves from being ignored forever, not to mention other forms of torture in the hell-fire. We just can’t bear to be neglected, really!

Accursed!

Bismillah.

There are some universally accepted principles and morals in this world, the adherence to which is considered good and nonconformity to them is considered bad. We know that according to a universal principle, being angry or hating someone is detestable. However, there are exceptions! Sometimes it is good to be angry and very good to hate someone. That is, if the subject really  requires it. And there is no entity that requires our hate and anger as much as Satan, the accursed.

Once you get to know about him, you wish you could skin him alive. Fortunately, there are ways in which you can torture him for real. But the issue is we don’t hate him that much, because we don’t know about him. Understandably, we can’t see him in our physical world and so it seems like a thing of faraway. However, he does not feel like that. He feels very much close to us and is always plotting against us, and by ‘always’ I mean 24/7 literally.

Whether you hate him or not, he definitely hates you. And he wishes nothing but destruction upon you. He despises us so much that he’s prepared to mislead us from the day we come into this world. Actually he prepares the ground even before that. By misleading our parents. Imagine the worst enemy you can, and think what he would wish upon you. That nothing goes right in your life, you acheive nothing good and that you be tortured to death by being burnt or something. But guess what? Satan hates us even more, he doesn’t want you to die but to live in the worst torture ever imaginable, the hell-fire! The Fire which is 69 times more severe than the fire of this world. And he wants you to remain there forever! Sadly ever after!

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If by this time, you’ve started feeling hatred in your heart for him, then read on! Allah is our Creator and the Creator of Satan as well. He knows us best. So He has told us precautionary measures which can save us from his plots and tricks. Of those is saving your children from his malice even before they’re born, or to make it exact, even before they start existing (inside the womb).

We find in Sahih Bukhari, 3271:

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “If anyone of you, when having sexual relation with his wife, say: ‘In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from Satan and prevent Satan from approaching our offspring you are going to give us,’ and if he begets a child (as a result of that relation) Satan will not harm it.”

Not only will this protect your kids from Satan, but will also make the act a good deed, because you’re remembering Allah and therefore it shows you’re conscious of Him even while being intimate.

There was one woman who was so wise that not only her own kid but her grandchild was also saved from Satan. It was the mother of Mary and the grandmother of Jesus.

We find in Sahih Bukhari, 4548 (Arabic reference):

Narrated Sa`id bin Al-Musaiyab:
Abu Huraira said, “The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ‘No child is born but that, Satan touches it when it is born whereupon it starts crying loudly because of being touched by Satan, except Mary and her son.” Abu Huraira then said, “Recite, if you wish: “And I seek Refuge with You (Allah) for her and her offspring from Satan, the outcast.” (3.36)

Be insightful and secure the future of your children. Remember, knowing your enemy gives you advantage over him. Get to know about him. You’ll be amazed how much he interferes in your life. He tries to share your food by making you forget taking Allah’s Name over it, He distracts you during your prayer, He brings evil thoughts in your mind, He makes you forget things. The list is very long. Do your own research and know his traps because his traps are no joke. He promised to lead us astray in whatever way he can.

He said: Then I will come to them from before them and from behind them and on their right and on their left, and You will not find most of them grateful [to You].” (7:17)

Save yourself before it’s too late! Hating him is not enough, you have to fight him with the right weapons. The weapons given to us by Allah and His Prophet ﷺ.

The good news is there are ways in which you can make him cry and writhe in misery. Allah has taught us those ways in His Book and in the hadith of His Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. Do you know of any? Share in the comments section below (with reference).

[Iblees] said, “Do You see this one whom You have honored above me? If You delay me until the Day of Resurrection, I will surely destroy his descendants, except for a few.” [Allah] said, “Go, for whoever of them follows you, indeed Hell will be the recompense of you – an ample recompense. And incite [to senselessness] whoever you can among them with your voice and assault them with your horses and foot soldiers and become a partner in their wealth and their children and promise them.” But Satan does not promise them except delusion. Indeed, over My [believing] servants there is for you no authority. And sufficient is your Lord as Disposer of affairs. (17:62-65)

Here’s an interesting take on the subject:
https://knowinghearts.wordpress.com/2013/01/30/know-thy-enemy/

P.S. Always read your duas of protection. Prophet Muhammad ﷺ has taught us those extensively.

Exposed!

Bismillah.

Have you ever wondered why Pepsi plays its ad on TV so many times a day? Who doesn’t know Pepsi exists? Today even if you go to far flung villages in Pakistan, you find the logo of Pepsi painted on the half broken mud and brick wall on the dirt-roadside. People who live in the most deplorable conditions imaginable and who can’t even spell their own name, know about Pepsi. It’s not just Pepsi, take anything. Take Lays or Ufone, for example. The rich, poor, educated, uneducated, elderly, kids, everyone knows about these products. What is the need then to tell us every 15 minutes in a cricket tournament on TV that this product is so cool?

Let me tell you why! Because if they stop advertising, in a few years no one would even recognize the name Pepsi or Lays or whatever. Such is the human brain. Constant exposure to things makes us familiar with them and we end up believing in those things. If you know for sure that something is a blatant lie and people keep telling you it is the truth, constantly and actively, you’d eventually start believing it is the truth. Just like, if you’re feeling well and healthy in the morning but everyone who you meet throughout the day tells you that you look pale, your eyes are yellow and you must be suffering from jaundice, by the end of the day you’d be taking a doctor’s appointment.

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This is considered a psychological phenomenon, the mere-exposure effect, a concept developed by Robert Zajonc and others. It states that people tend to develop a preference for things merely because they are familiar with them. This phenomenon is most actively used in advertising. Which is why if you keep watching the ad of a specific shampoo, on going to the market, you’d end up buying that same shampoo for no particular reason.

This is also the reason why if today someone says “the religion of terrorism”, sadly and unfortunately, Islam comes to our minds. We have associated these concepts in our minds subconsciously due to over exposure to the media. And this is why, the concept of hereafter today seems so alien to most of the Muslims even. The materialism that has seeped in our very blood today is because of the crazy run-after-money-till-you-die ideology injected in us through our surroundings.

Allah is our Creator and He understands us best, which is why He tells us again and again to watch our company, to stay with good people, to be connected with the Quran constantly. Because reminders have a great influence on us humans. Our companions make us or break us. The things that we read or watch, shape our mind and personality.

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Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was the best teacher, mentor and life coach to have ever walked on the planet. He dealt with the people around him according to their psyche. He cashed small moments to teach big concepts to his students. His expert training of his companions is the reason why they turned out to be so remarkable. Here’s a great example of this:

We find in Sahih Bukhari, 3249:

Narrated Al-Bara bin Azib:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) was given a silken garment, and its beauty and delicacy astonished the people. On that, Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “No doubt, the handkerchiefs of Sa`d bin Mu`adh in Paradise are better than this.” 

Just when there was a danger of those people about to lose themselves in the materialistic gains, he brought them back with a bang! No lecture, no long speeches, no harsh words. Just a simple and clear statement having a multifaceted effect. It’s beautiful! Look at the wisdom!

He did not say, “hey, stay away from this, this might make you forget that this world is temporary, you’re getting too much attracted, you know” or “hell awaits those who get too involved in this world”. He did not say, “do good deeds and you might get better”.

He reminded them of the hereafter so they don’t lose their focus, he mentioned Paradise so they feel good about the blessings there, he mentioned their companion so they can relate to him, so they get ideas what do we have to do now. Humans have a competitive nature, they like to beat others. He gave them that spark indirectly, Sa’d has this, do more than him and you might get more.

This is what we need to learn. Exposing people to the right kind of knowledge, setting their focal point. Reiterating! Teaching and reminding but gently, wisely and simply. How beloved and great is my Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.

P.S. If you feel curious as to who Sa’d RA was and what was so special that he did, search for his story, extract the gems, and learn by example. :)

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Let Dreams Come True!

Bismillah. 

Every single one of us who lives, dreams! Every person’s dream is unique to themsevles, yet every healthy dream has a happy ending. No one wants tragedies. We might dream of a beautiful house, car of the latest model, the newest iphone, pretty shoes, a trip around the world, a room full of makeup, to be a famous star, even simple things such as a cup of warm coffee in a cold night, a shoulder to lean on when we feel hurt, a surprise visit by a dear friend, the joy of seeing our kids succeed, the giddy feeling when someone hugs us suddenly, the elevated feeling on winning a competition, the peace that surrounds us when all the family is sitting together calmly and the list never ends. 

Hollywood cashes on this human weakness and makes us feel through its productions that “dreams come true”. Hardly any child is ignorant of the stories of princesses and the dreams that materialized for them eventually, stories that pass on from generation to generation. Some teach their kids to dream about other things and the kids even when they grow up into adults, still hold that childhood dream close to their heart. 

In every dream that each one of us has, the common factor is not just happiness but immortality. The “Happily Ever After”. However, we all live in a world of deception. This world does not have “ever afters”. The most happiest and richest guy dies too after completing his term on the planet. 

  
But wait, don’t let your dreams be shattered so soon. Dream on! But of the place where “happily ever afters” are the norm. Yes, dream of Paradise! Where you will never die, your loved ones will never die, where no one hates anyone, where love and joy bloom 24/7. The place where there will be palaces made of gold, silver and pearls. There will be gardens full of the most exotic fruits. Your favourite dish will come right in front of you right then and there. There will be greenery and beauty and sparkly streams flowing here and there. Where we will wear dresses of silks with the finest jewellery, and look so regal. Spouses there will be crazily in love and absurdly good to each other. It will be a place, free of exams and taunts and sad news. No jealousy or ill-will with anyone. We will recline comfortably on fluffly pillows and joke and laugh over delicious snacks. (InshaAllah). 

This is Paradise! Just thinking of it makes your mouth water and you wish fervently to have your name written in its inhabitants. But nothing of value was ever achieved without a hefty price. And so Paradise comes with its own set of requirements, the most basic of which is believing in the One true God, Allah and not associating partners with Him. 

However, there are many other factors as well, some of which make you more eligible for this heavenly land and others which make you ineligible. We will be considering only one of the factors right now that could prevent us from going into Paradise. You get rid of that obstacle and up your chances! :)

Before we go on, we must talk about the scary part. Ineligibility to go into Paradise means eligibility for the Great Fire, which will burn and torture and agonize beyond limits. It is either this end for us or that end, nothing in between. 

We find in Sahih Bukhari, 3241:

Narrated `Imran bin Husain:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “I looked at Paradise and found poor people forming the majority of its inhabitants; and I looked at Hell and saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women.”

Women! In hellfire! Why? We find the explanation in another place. 

Sahih Bukhari, 29:

Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:

The Prophet SAW said, “I was shown the Hell-fire and that majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disblieve in Allah?” (Or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have been always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.”

Ingratitude! We women suffer from this. Ungratefulness to husbands and also on favours conferred upon us. We have a natural disposition to complain and to get overemotional on a slight affliction and thus declare in the depths of pity and misery that this “always” happens, “nothing” goes right “ever”. We tend to use absolutes which are lies in and of itself. Because that affliction just came, it does not wipe out all the good that we have in our lives. 

  
This ungrateful attitude not only makes our husbands suffer and feel sad but also plunges us in misery. And it makes Allah displeased as well. Why lose that beautiful Paradise over petty things? 

Together, we can change this attitude inshaAllah. Instead of acting as fuel to the fire when our friends share our problems with us, we will redirect their attention to the good in their lives. Try to stay away from trashy negative literature and soaps. Whatever we see, read or think, influences us. We can make a list each night before sleeping in our phones or notepads of the 3 things that were good in my life today. And 3 things that I’m grateful for to my husband. Thinking more of the good all day will also help us control our tongues when feeling sentimental. Eventually this will lead to us being grateful to our Creator. Not only will it increase our chances of going into Paradise but also make our own little home in this world heavenly and peaceful. <3

Allah says, “If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]”. (14:7)

And Allah’s promises are true! :)

P.S. This hadith acts as a warning and sincere advice to women to correct their ways when there is still time. At other places, men have been reprimanded too with regards to their behaviour. This is not discrimination as some label it to be. Remeber, Allah is just and in terms of good deeds and bad deeds, men and women are treated equally. 

These Troubled Times

Bismillah.

Today was a hard day for the people of Pakistan. From one affliction after the other, we suffered. In general too, these are troubled times for the entire Muslim nation. One wound after the other, I saw people losing hope. I heard comments and read posts about how all is lost. Everyone is in despair. No one feels they can take it any more. And rightly so, the pain is great. The wounds are physical, emotional, spiritual and mental.

We keep repeating on our social media what we are going through and how bad the situation is, ending with a hashtag of #NoHate, though in reality our posts are doing nothing else but generate hate. But then what else can we do? We feel helpless!

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My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, sad as you are, let me remind you of another hard day that someone very beloved to us went through. Someone who all of us claim to love, one way or the other. What was his reaction?

Narrated `Aisha:
That she asked the Prophet (ﷺ) , ‘Have you encountered a day harder than the day of the battle) of Uhud?” The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, “Your tribes have troubled me a lot, and the worse trouble was the trouble on the day of ‘Aqaba when I presented myself to Ibn `Abd-Yalail bin `Abd-Kulal and he did not respond to my demand. So I departed, overwhelmed with excessive sorrow, and proceeded on, and could not relax till I found myself at Qarnath-Tha-alib where I lifted my head towards the sky to see a cloud shading me unexpectedly. I looked up and saw Gabriel in it. He called me saying, ‘Allah has heard your people’s saying to you, and what they have replied back to you, Allah has sent the Angel of the Mountains to you so that you may order him to do whatever you wish to these people.’ The Angel of the Mountains called and greeted me, and then said, “O Muhammad! Order what you wish. If you like, I will let Al-Akh-Shabain (i.e. two mountains) fall on them.” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “No but I hope that Allah will let them beget children who will worship Allah Alone, and will worship None besides Him.” [Sahih Bukhari, 3231]

This was a time when Prophet Muhammad ﷺ disappointed from the hatred of the people of Makkah and their constant refusal to accept the truth travelled to Taif, hopeful that they’d welcome the beautiful message of Islam. However, instead of accepting it, they started mocking the person who today we hold in so much respect. They made their people line up in two rows on the side of the road and when Prophet Muhammad ﷺ passed from there, they pelted him with rocks and threw stones at him. So much so that his body bled and the blood filled up his shoes. Just stop for a moment and picture this. Shoes filled with blood?! How much wounded do you have to be to be in this state. Imagine a lone person hurling a single rock at you, how would you feel? A whole group of people throwing stones at my Prophet ﷺ? The mere thought fills us with rage and tears. We want to go and beat up those people all over again.

In this state, Prophet Muhammad ﷺ staggered out of that town, how weak he must have felt. And at that time, Jibreel came with the Angel of the Mountains awaiting just a command. I see you already wishing it was you so you could tell the Angel to crush those people between two mountains. But look at the reply of my beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. He said, “no, but I hope that Allah will let them beget children who will worship Allah Alone, and will worship None besides Him.”

Hope! At a time like this! This is the character of the one who I’m supposed to follow, step by step. This is what is expected of me being a caller towards Allah, being a Muslim, being a member of the best of nations. I can’t afford to lose hope.

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I’m a leader, I have to pull up the people around me, I have to be the shoulder they can lean on, I have to give them light so they can see the way. And what is the way except the way that leads to Allah?

If that day, my Prophet Muhammad ﷺ had lost hope and had those people crushed between mountains, how would the legendary hero, Muhammad bin Qasim have been born from the progeny of the people of Taif? Muhammad bin Qasim, the first Muslim leader to have stepped on the land of Sindh and thus bringing Islam to this region. Who knows that I owe my Islam to him today?

Instead of ranting about the problems and the pain, I need to talk about the solution. I need to instil in those hearts softened by the affliction that it’s time we turn back to Allah, it’s time we fixed ourselves. Allah says, “And whatever strikes you of disaster – it is for what your hands have earned; but He pardons much.” (42:30)

I will fix myself. I will perform ablution a little extra carefully today, I will spend a few minutes more at the prayer mat, I will seek forgiveness for my sins more than usual, I will tell people to worship Allah, to do good deeds, to stay away from immoral acts with more fervour today. Because I know this is the solution! I know this will bring change!

I believe! Allah says, “Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people.” (12:87)

I believe that my hope will bring forth many Muhammad bin Qasims inshaAllah. :)

 

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For better or for worse

Bimillah.

If you’re a woman, married or unmarried, this is for you. Surprisingly, the post is about men. Oops!

It’s because we live in a world where everyone is keen to know their rights but hardly anyone is concerned about their duties. It’s satisfying and easy to know what rights you have, but fulfilling your duties is uphill work. Anyway, it’s a long debate and we will not be getting into it just now, suffice it to say that men and women both have their sets of duties and rights, Allah has set them and He is not unfair to either sex.

What I do want to talk about is hadith no. 3237 in Sahih Bukhari, it is a well-known hadith but the intensity of the implication of its meaning is what’s often not registered:

Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning.”

Refusing a husband when he calls for sexual relations is a major sin.

Major sins are not something to be taken lightly. If not doing something is a major sin then doing it is an obligation. You have to do it, there is no way around it. Sometimes when people start getting pleasure out of certain things, they think they have to do those things only as long as they’re enjoyable and when they don’t get the pleasure any more, they think it’s okay to leave them and they forget that in the first place it was an obligation, the pleasure was just a bonus.

This is the mercy of Allah that He has put pleasure in obligatory things for us. For example, attending a Quran class and learning new things is fun. But even if it wasn’t fun, we’d still have to do it.

Similarly, your husband is your friend, you have good times together and you have bad times. You get tired and sometimes want to be alone as well. But even then, when you don’t feel like it, you still can’t say ‘no’.

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Some might call it cruel but then again the thing to remember is that all the rules are set by Allah and He knows us best, wants the best for us and is never unjust. To understand the scientific aspect of it, you can read the details somewhere where you will find how it is important for men to release that specific energy bottled up inside which would otherwise be harmful for them. It’s a need, just like food is our need. To understand the emotional aspect, you can still read on it elsewhere.

There are only 2 conditions in which you can refuse your husband:

  1. There is a legal reason. You’re on your period, you’re fasting the obligatory fast, he’s asking you to do something forbidden in Islam (anal sex etc.)
  2. There is a physical reason. You’re extremely ill and weak and don’t have the strength to please him.

Other than this, denying him his right just out of boredom, because you’re not in the mood, you’re doing something else or you want to do it conditionally, all this is wrong.

This is an obligation. Leaving obligatory deeds is sure to bring all sorts of problems in life. The first thing it would do is to take away Allah’s mercy. If your marital life is suffering, think is it because I am not doing something that I am supposed to be doing?

Obeying one’s husband is very important anyway. His place is only after Allah and His Prophet ﷺ. If the husband is not happy with you, Allah won’t be happy either. We should be careful lest all our other good deeds go to waste by not taking care of this obligation.

Just like it is sinful to not obey him, similarly, obeying him has a lot of merits. Not only does it make you enter Paradise but it will make Allah happy and it will eventually bring marital bliss. Your husband will notice what you do for him and be good to you as well. You just need to keep doing your job.

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise by whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.”

[Narrated by Ahmad (1664) and others; classed as hasan by al-Albaani because of another report in Saheeh al-Targheeb, as stated by al-Arna’oot in Takhreej al-Musnad.]

May Allah make our spouses the coolness of our eyes. Ameen.

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