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The Highest Bar


Whoever knows even a little bit of history, knows about the horrifying details of the life of slaves back then. This is not just about slavery of a certain era, but when nations become powerful, they usually oppress the weak ones and drench the pages of history in blood. Looking at the now civilized nations, people can’t help but say that this civility is only as long as things go as it is, more power will corrupt. And if given the chance, everyone becomes evil and selfish. Equality and justice then become only words.

If you look at it, it is kind of true. Except it is not true at all when you look at the history of Islam. No matter how much propaganda the haters do about Islam and show it to be as oppressive or violent, the facts remain and the records narrate otherwise. With the dawn of Islam, that one and only system was established which was a safe haven for every slave, every oppressed and weak person. It gave a flawless representation of harmony and justice. It was a powerful light, in the face of which no darkness remained.

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Umar:

The Prophet (ﷺ) sent an army under the command of Usama bin Zaid. When some people criticized his leadership, the Prophet (ﷺ) said, “If you are criticizing Usama’s leadership, you used to criticize his father’s leadership before. By Allah! He was worthy of leadership and was one of the dearest persons to me, and (now) this (i.e. Usama) is one of the dearest to me after him (i.e. Zaid).
[Sahih Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith 78]

Usama (RA) was the son of Zaid (RA). And Zaid (RA) was a slave, freed by the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ). Usama (RA) was made the leader of an army at the age of nineteen. Under his command were people much older and learned than him, there were people with the finest lineage, respectable titles, and of great wealth. And yet the young son of a freed slave was made to lead.


And look at the one who was sent as a mercy to all mankind, defending and showing his love for the young black boy and his father. Because everyone is the same in the light of Islam, the only thing that makes one superior to another is “taqwa”* (God consciousness). And this superiority makes them equal in all other things. It is this criterion which makes everyone compete with another in a good and healthy way and yet stand together as one otherwise. No difference of race, ethnicity, colour or age matters anymore.

Zaid (RA), the freed slave, was married to Zainab (RA), the cousin of the Prophet (ﷺ) and later to Umm Aiman (RA), the woman who had taken care of the Prophet (ﷺ) when he was young. Look at the status and age difference in these marriages.

The Prophet (ﷺ) loved the little black son of Zaid (RA) as one of his own.

Narrated Usama bin Zaid:
That the Prophet (ﷺ) used to take him (i.e. Usama) and Al-Hassan** (in his lap) and say: “O Allah! Love them, as I love them.”
[Sahih Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith 83]

If only we remember these simple things taught by Islam, that strengthened their bonds and in turn their society, and led them to rise and take over the world, we wouldn’t need any campaigns for rights of this group or the other.

As Iqbal, the celebrated Urdu poet said,

ایک ہی صف میں کھڑے ہو گئے محمود و ایاز
نہ کوئی بندہ رہا اور نہ کوئی بندہ نواز

Meaning of prose: Mahmood (the leader) and Ayaaz (his servant) stood together in the same row to pray as equals. They felt no scruples despite the huge difference in their ranks. 

Sadly, where do we see that legacy today in Muslims that was carried for years after the Companions of the Prophet (ﷺ)? Where are the Mahmood and Ayaaz of today standing together side by side?


*Taqwa is a term that is difficult to explain in a few words. Briefly, it is being conscious of God all the time. It is stopping from sins each time because of the fear of displeasing Allah and it is doing good deeds in the hope of pleasing Allah.  

**Al-Hasan was the grandson of the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ)

For better or for worse


If you’re a woman, married or unmarried, this is for you. Surprisingly, the post is about men. Oops!

It’s because we live in a world where everyone is keen to know their rights but hardly anyone is concerned about their duties. It’s satisfying and easy to know what rights you have, but fulfilling your duties is uphill work. Anyway, it’s a long debate and we will not be getting into it just now, suffice it to say that men and women both have their sets of duties and rights, Allah has set them and He is not unfair to either sex.

What I do want to talk about is hadith no. 3237 in Sahih Bukhari, it is a well-known hadith but the intensity of the implication of its meaning is what’s often not registered:

Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning.”

Refusing a husband when he calls for sexual relations is a major sin.

Major sins are not something to be taken lightly. If not doing something is a major sin then doing it is an obligation. You have to do it, there is no way around it. Sometimes when people start getting pleasure out of certain things, they think they have to do those things only as long as they’re enjoyable and when they don’t get the pleasure any more, they think it’s okay to leave them and they forget that in the first place it was an obligation, the pleasure was just a bonus.

This is the mercy of Allah that He has put pleasure in obligatory things for us. For example, attending a Quran class and learning new things is fun. But even if it wasn’t fun, we’d still have to do it.

Similarly, your husband is your friend, you have good times together and you have bad times. You get tired and sometimes want to be alone as well. But even then, when you don’t feel like it, you still can’t say ‘no’.


Some might call it cruel but then again the thing to remember is that all the rules are set by Allah and He knows us best, wants the best for us and is never unjust. To understand the scientific aspect of it, you can read the details somewhere where you will find how it is important for men to release that specific energy bottled up inside which would otherwise be harmful for them. It’s a need, just like food is our need. To understand the emotional aspect, you can still read on it elsewhere.

There are only 2 conditions in which you can refuse your husband:

  1. There is a legal reason. You’re on your period, you’re fasting the obligatory fast, he’s asking you to do something forbidden in Islam (anal sex etc.)
  2. There is a physical reason. You’re extremely ill and weak and don’t have the strength to please him.

Other than this, denying him his right just out of boredom, because you’re not in the mood, you’re doing something else or you want to do it conditionally, all this is wrong.

This is an obligation. Leaving obligatory deeds is sure to bring all sorts of problems in life. The first thing it would do is to take away Allah’s mercy. If your marital life is suffering, think is it because I am not doing something that I am supposed to be doing?

Obeying one’s husband is very important anyway. His place is only after Allah and His Prophet ﷺ. If the husband is not happy with you, Allah won’t be happy either. We should be careful lest all our other good deeds go to waste by not taking care of this obligation.

Just like it is sinful to not obey him, similarly, obeying him has a lot of merits. Not only does it make you enter Paradise but it will make Allah happy and it will eventually bring marital bliss. Your husband will notice what you do for him and be good to you as well. You just need to keep doing your job.

Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise by whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.”

[Narrated by Ahmad (1664) and others; classed as hasan by al-Albaani because of another report in Saheeh al-Targheeb, as stated by al-Arna’oot in Takhreej al-Musnad.]

May Allah make our spouses the coolness of our eyes. Ameen.



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