A healthy living includes not only physical health but also mental, emotional and spiritual health. All these aspects of a balanced life are interconnected and influence each other. Today, health experts say that holding grudges or unexpressed anger may cause cancer or cardiovascular diseases. At any rate, it makes one’s life uncomfortable and causes anxiety and depression.
People, in general, are not always bad. Often they do want to forgive but they don’t know how to do it. They want to be guided to baby steps and different examples from everyday life situations so they know how to deal with it. Knowing this human weakness of ours, Allah gave us a huge gift and role model in the shape of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. He was a human being dealing with the routine struggles of life and more, and yet the way he reacted and dealt with them is exceptional.
If you wish to be a happy and optimistic person who knows how to extract positives from every negative, then read the following:
Sahih Bukhari, 3533:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Doesn’t it astonish you how Allah protects me from the Quraish’s abusing and cursing? They abuse Mudhammam and curse Mudhammam while I am Muhammad (and not Mudhammam).
Meanings of Arabic words: [Mudhammam: disgraced, Muhammad: praised]
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was opposed, mocked at and tortured by his enemies when he was spreading the message of truth. He was innocent, he was trying to guide them to what was beneficial yet they twisted the truth and made it sound to whoever they could that actually he ﷺ was trying to spread discord and hate amongst people. They accused him of evil intentions. Imagine, how tough it would be for him when he wanted nothing but good even for his enemies.
In their hate, these people didn’t even like to take his name, Muhammad. It means “the one praised” and indeed his whole character is praiseworthy. But they called him Mudhammam, “the one who is disgraced”. Instead of becoming angry, shouting at them, or calling names at them, He ﷺ simply said, they are mocking and opposing Mudhammam, not me because I am Muhammad. It’s someone else they’re talking about.
So simple and brilliant! If people accuse you of something you did not do or call you bad names and you have a clear conscience, then say to yourself, it’s not me they are talking about but someone else because I’m innocent.
And then move on with a smile! Because it was not about you in the first place. :)