Light Up Your Life With Islam

Bismillah.

Ever looked in the eyes of young teenagers of high school in Pakistan? The kids who are just growing up, feeling the changes within them and around them. Looking here and there in a questioning way without getting any answers. Or do you just ignore them like a bunch of silly sheep bleating loudly?

Where are their parents? The most important characters in a person’s life. Do they help them get on? Sadly, no.
Parents don’t tell them anything. They think stuff is understood, or they don’t want to tell it to their children (not knowing that they know everything already the wrong way, since you didn’t tell the right way). They don’t understand that today kids need direct counseling. A one-to-one talk. With all the different kinds of mess outside, they’re confused. And no affectionate elder is there in the family to guide them. Or even to whom they can go and talk to. The only thing elders do is put restrictions on every possible thing so kids don’t fall into bad (the conservative parent) or they let them do everything so they don’t fall into good (the liberal parent). Someone seriously needs to counsel parents, and also tell them:
Let. Them. Do. Everything. Within. The. Boundaries. Of. Halal. And. Save. Them. From. Sin.
This is what the parents need to know. Or a good shaking is all they need.

Then there’s the school. What’s taught there? Just a bunch of subjects utterly useful for handling life. Some biological systems, a few chemical reactions, mathematical equations, formulas of physics, outdated English stories that bore you to death, Urdu poems of unfulfilled love, structure of computers, history of how Pakistan was stabbed here and there by various regimes, and the list goes on for other such subjects. Okay. These are good. But are these good enough?
No lessons on how to streamline your thinking, discover the Creator, handle your emotions, manage pressure and hormonal changes, discover your hidden talent and be given a purposeful direction? What if someone’s skill is maintaining a perfect routine? Or talking to others convincingly? Or creating wonders out of imagination? What’s in schools to dig out and enhance the natural skills unique to each being and let them pursue those with ease?

Look at the teachers. Or don’t. Most of them are not worth looking at (I don’t say all). My apologies for the bitter truth but that’s how it is. Teachers of high schools are not the best people of this society, unfortunately. The female teachers being interested only in fashion, gossip, shopping, bossing around and the male teachers being interested in flirting with the female teachers, cracking silly jokes and both of them teach to earn a little money or because they’re bored at home and just because they well, have to teach.
No improving of minds, no provision of inspiration or high ideals, no nothing. Just a bunch of silly people who if they do fill ideas in minds are only those ideas which would have been better if not shared at all.

The company and friends consequently is the worst imaginable. Kids fill their heads with romantic novels, films full of violence, hot gals, cool guys, porn on the internet, and silly jokes.

What is the solution? Who will bridge the communication gap? Talk and counsel them? Help them get a direction? Help them stop wasting the most precious years of their life?

The question is who?

Wassalam,
Hajrah.

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Comments on: "High School Teens – in a mess or taken amiss?" (4)

  1. “Elders” like us! I mean although we’re not included in the “Elder” category by our elders but Alhamdulillah we have past that age. We have made many mistakes and we have learned the hard way because well our parents did the exact same thing that you mentioned in your article above. And we can honestly teach them valuable, PRACTICAL tips/lessons.

    I’ve noticed that my younger cousins/friends, who are a few years younger than me, really look up to me when they have any problem. And i’m sure it’s the same with everyone. Not because we’re angels. No, we’re far from that. But because they really ARE IN A MESS. Just like you said. And if we try just a little they really tell you their problems. At least, that’s what I’ve noticed. So what I try to do is keep a good friendly relation with those cousins or friends who are a bit younger than me.

    This age group is from 16-20 you can say. After that they too start to realize that the stuff they’ve been in is no good. But if we tell them how we dealed with our problems, and become that “someone who can be talked to” then it would really help them a great deal. insha Allah.

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  2. The things I see in front of me are not too different but here I’d very much like to point out that not all parents are on the two extremes.What I observed is that some parents make Islamic basis strong in their children but as they go to school,they get a totally different situation there.Children are more confused these days than a decade or two back.
    My visit to my old school kinda opened my eyes.When I was a student there,we used to wait for the annual sports day or talent show etc.The same goes for the certificates and rewards.The focus was more on giving knowledge and some extra-curricular activities so that children stay motivated to come to school.Now,the scenario is totally different.I could never think of my school teachers teaching dance steps to little students just to present them before a chief guest.In my time getting certificates was a big deal,now they have certificates for reading,writing,behaving good,attendance,art work……and the list goes on.every week or so,they have a party or some fun activity.
    Long and short,their is more fun than gain of knowledge.And that little knowledge they give-well you know how far from Islam it is.
    How tis can be solved?
    One point that comes to my mind with this question is:Straightening of priorities!
    Of teachers and students and parents and educationists,alike.
    No exceptions.

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    • Yes, but I believe that the parents who’re really giving a strong base of Islam, their kids wouldn’t be confused. Maybe the parents aren’t doing it the right way. :)

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